Lights, energy, music and an EPIC Saturday morning boxing class. Blood pumping, energy levels through the roof, feeling ALIVE again after a hectic, stressful week and literally bouncing out of the studio on the biggest high!
Yet the first thing I hear when I leave is “I’m so gutted I only burnt 340 calories in that class. Last week I burnt 380.” And I could hear the genuine disappointment and frustration in her voice.
My face and my energy literally dropped to the floor. I felt so sad for her. This woman had just come out of exactly the same class as me – yet our experiences could not have been more different. For a split second I had no idea how that was even possible. And I felt a little bit guilty about it.
But then I remembered. THAT USED TO BE ME.
I used to leave the gym in a low vibe, on a complete downer, annoyed at myself for not being better or looking better, inner critic in full flow. Somehow I’d come out the other side. I’d found a new way. A new approach to fitness which served me a WHOLE lot better than the last one.
It was at that moment that I decided to become a Personal Trainer. I wanted to help women get ALL the good stuff from exercise and leave all the negative stuff behind. Because it really doesn’t have to be like that. That mindset is 100% man-made.
Yep. We’ve done it to ourselves. WE’VE created that! Exercise was never meant to be a punishment or a chore. It’s a tool we should be using for our benefit – to help us feel fitter, stronger, more resilient, more alive. Not to make ourselves miserable.
Can you imagine what it feels like to get alllll of the endorphins, motivation and high energy from a workout with NONE of the guilt, shame, comparison and not-good-enoughness? Because that it absolutely available to you.
But you can’t outperform your mindset. So it just takes a little bit of tweaking to shift it towards a different perspective.
This approach is at the very heart of my business and it’s something I explore a lot with my clients.
My advice for getting started right now?
- Stop forcing yourself to do exercise which you hate!
Why run if you hate running? Why spin if you hate spinning? There really is no point in torturing yourself like this because you’re only going to reaffirm the belief that exercise is a chore or a punishment – and so it will always feel like one! There is enough variety out there to FIND WHAT YOU LOVE. And as soon as you do, it gets a whole lot easier, I promise.
- Focus on how you feel after a workout.
You might be tired, achy and a bit sweaty but notice how you actually feel afterwards. Are you energised, confident, motivated, stronger, lighter, brighter, happier? And how does it impact the rest of your day? Are you more productive, less stressed, in a better mood?
The first thing I noticed was how clear my mind felt after a workout. I would regularly walk to the gym worrying about something or stressing about what I had to do the next day, but when that same thing would pop back into my mind after my workout, it never seemed as bad?! I was able to think more clearly, logically, put things into perspective.
And when you notice the good stuff, really focus on it. Every single time. Let that be your driver. And you’ll soon begin to feel your energy and your whole perspective shift. In order to recondition your mindset, you have to start talking to yourself differently. Because nothing changes if nothing changes, right?!